Metaphorical associative cards “Women’s Stories”

Authors:

• Ulyana Alliance – psychologist, Professional Coach ICU, head of the school of play practice #AlivePlaying, author of t-games.
• Yana Aisman – psychologist, fairytale therapist, writer

Artists: Yulia Dotsenko, nbsp; Kristina Anyutina-Vasilchenko
The “Women’s Stories” deck of metaphorical associative cards, nbsp; designed for psychologists, coaches, women’s trainers, as well as for a wide range of women who set themselves the task of better understanding themselves and women around.
When working, this deck can be used as a psychodiagnostic, advisory or correctional tool. nbsp;It is based on two therapeutic books by psychologist and fairytale therapist Jana Eismann.
It is dedicated to two important roles in a woman’s life: the role of a girl and the role of a mother (caring adult).
Contents:

• 41 cards girls
• 37 mom cards

The deck contains 78 double-sided cards, which metaphorically depict the 2 main manifestations of a woman

Inner girl

Caring caring adult< /li> on the one hand, and metaphorical messages on the other hand.
The message of each card nbsp;penetrates deeply and turns a person to his inner world. Watercolor illustrations subtly and unobtrusively reveal emotions, images and states that are currently important for a woman to realize and live.
The deck can also be used to work with parental scenarios.nbsp; Transformation of grievances and complaints against mom and similar cases.
The main therapeutic effect is achieved when the client works with both parts of the deck at once, beginning to separate desires, emotions, childish and parental scenarios. Thus, he has the opportunity to hear the “voice” of his adult part.nbsp;
Examples of exercises when working with metaphorical associative cards.

There are several ways to work with cards:

• Work openly (VO). The client, going through the deck, chooses the card that most responds to the trick (a request or question for the card). In such work, the client will gain more understanding of how he sees and interprets the situation.
• Work in closed nbsp; (VZ). The client pulls out a card or cards without looking at the picture, as if by accident. At the same time, the card can show an unexpected plot and reveal the focus from an unexpected angle. After that, he describes what he sees in the picture, talks about the associations that he has when working with this or these cards.
• The work can use both ready-made diagrams proposed in the instructions and creative ones decisions of each specialist. This set of cards works with any “feminine” tasks.

Examples of techniques for consultants
Take care of yourself.

Draw cards according to the scheme, asking questions.< /li>

VZ from the white part: What fortune would you like to save for yourself now? What is valuable to you in this state? Does it need protection?

POI from the lilac part: What emotions of yours help protect the state of your soul? What are you ready to show to the world?

POI from the white part: What will help you return to caring for yourself?

POI from the lilac part. Message: What words are important for your Soul to hear so that you remember about yourself?

OT from the lilac part: What part of you can protect you? Where does this occur in your life? What does the adult part of you want to convey to you (Here you can turn the card over)

Where are you, baby? – a technique for finding your inner girl.

Can be used in situations of loss of joy in life, boredom, monotony.

VO from the lilac part: What state is the most relevant now? Find him. What’s happening to mom? What is she like? What does she want?

In the OT we take out 3 messages from the lilac part: What should you pay the closest attention to now? What questions should you answer in order to meet your inner child?

VZ from the lilac part: What resources does the adult part now have for meeting your inner child?

VZ from the white part we take out the Message: What is the most important message the adult part of you can convey to your child right now? How does it respond? Where does it have a place in life?

After discussing the previous question, we suggest turning over the card with a message to get acquainted with the child’s state: Let’s get to know your inner child? What is he like? How is his life? What does he want? What does he want to tell you?

True desires.
This technique has a huge number of variations. Therefore, we present you only an idea.
Open or closed, we can find the desires of a mother and the desire of a little girl, as two subpersonalities that want different things in the inner world of our client. Explore contradictions and similarities. Here we work only with images. And, when the clarification process is completed, offer to find the true desires of the “adult client”. And here you can work with messages.
Examples of techniques for personal use:

Setting up for the day. Choose which of your parts (children’s – white, parents’ – lilac) you would like to spend the day on. Pull out the image from the selected part into the closed (EC) image. Unpack its meaning for yourself. At the end of the day, turn the card over and read the message. Unpack its meaning for yourself. Combine figurative and textual messages. Find resources there. If necessary, you can ask an additional focus (question) before drawing the card.

Write your story. Choose a topic you want to research. Choose 5-7 cards from any deck and try to tell a fairy tale, starting with the words “Once upon a time there was a girl,” or “Once upon a time there was a mother.” Depending on whether you took out the first lilac or white card.
You can use any of these techniques among your friends, and your meeting will become unforgettable and deep.